I’m sure we’ve all been there before… writing New Year resolutions only to be forgotten as the days and months went by. I know it’s Valentine’s Day and not the 1st of January and you might be thinking I have my holidays mixed up! No! Life just gets busy. I’m sure you’ve heard it before. But how can we make goals that we actually accomplish? How can we live life with purpose and not simply let it pass us by? How can we become who we want to be and not just become someone that is a result of our circumstances?
I don’t pretend that I know all the answers but I believe the first step is in writing down your goals and thinking about who you want to BE!
So, I plan to use my blog as a place to document my journey of learning how to live intentionally and also to share things I discover along the way, whether they are success stories or failed attempts. Hopefully, some things may resonate with you too as we walk on this journey together and learn from each other!
3 Major Steps in Goal-Setting:
Write it down!
There’s just something about writing something down! It makes it more concrete; it makes it visual. It turns an abstract idea into something defined.
Here are my goals for this year! Yes, there are many… It is more like a list for my lifetime! I plan on just adding them into my lifestyle gradually and start building a habit out of each one. I’m not sure yet how this will work, but I’m thinking I will focus on ONE goal at a time and describe how I want it look like in my life and move on to the next goal, when I’ve got good momentum going. My first thought is to add a new goal to the mix every TWO weeks but I’ll try it out and see what happens. I might not get to all of them and that is okay!
Make Photobooks, Print Photos!
Do “missions” every month
Blog, write, reflect
Connect, keep in touch, encourage
Do devotions: personal/family, pray for us/others
Live frugally, budget, save
Pay off one loan
Finish my quilt before Alice is 1!
One hour of school with Evie/Alice
Play with my babies
Start journals of babies’ milestones, quotes
Tell John I love him everyday
Tell the babies I love them
Play the piano/guitar
Fill my house with music
Learn something new
Invest in young lives
Go outside more
Spend limited with tech
Love others unconditionally
Divide your goals into bite-sized chunks
Divide and conquer! Sometimes goals seem too big to attain and leave you feeling powerless to even begin. Try breaking it apart into smaller goals or phases and then work on conquering each phase one at a time. Every time I conquer a phase, no matter how small, I celebrate! Of course, we all celebrate in different ways. I may celebrate by taking a nap!
One thing I have learned from a Life Coaching training I participated in was in creating S.M.A.R.T. goals. I’ll use one of my goals as an example. EXERCISE! The no. 1 goal on my list and the hardest one for me to get started on and sustain!
Target a specific area you want to improve on
I want to exercise. What kind of exercise? I will start with the Yoga disc from P90x. Why do I want to do this? To decrease my blood pressure. When am I going to do this? In the mornings after my English teaching.
How am I going to measure the progress of my goal
How many days will I exercise? 4 days a week. How long will I exercise? 20mins. I need to also learn what is a good heart rate to shoot for during my exercise. I will then record my BP each day.
Check that my goal is realistic and important enough to me to want to achieve it
What are some of my hindrances? My babies needing attention. Ask my husband to help with the kids while I exercise. Doing it first thing after classes will also help me get it done early before other distractions!
Choosing goals that matter
At this point, it is very important to me because I am on BP meds and the doctor is increasing my dosage. Exercise and a change in diet are some of my top lifestyle changes for this year!
A commitment or deadline to achieve your goal
I want to develop a good habit of exercise within a month. I will reevaluate my progress and see if it’s time to increase my challenge or simply maintain it or even reduce the criteria to make it more attainable.
My S.M.A.R.T. goal: I want to develop an exercise habit using the p90x Yoga disc four times a week for 20 minutes a day and within 30 days.
Find someone to keep you accountable
It could be a spouse, friend, parent, co-worker, teacher, pastor, or even your children. Give someone permission to check up on you each day, each week, or each month. Post your goal online to your social network. Set a timeframe for when you would like to have reached your goal and let your accountability partner celebrate each step of the way with you!
Even if you do your best to create SMART goals, and have someone to cheer you on, sometimes life happens and obstacles get thrown in your path. Don’t be discouraged and don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go as you had hoped. Reevaluate your goals and it’s okay to reduce your requirements to help you kickstart a goal. Keep on pressing on and keep on celebrating your small victories! Pretty soon, you will look back and realize that you have moved closer towards the person you want to be!
Here’s to Living Intentionally this year!